The cancer in a relationship.
But the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, self-control, against such there is no law.
I’m sure all of us have met the little green monster. That little bit of negative emotion that later transforms into the killer in any relationship, if not dealt with.
We are all human and we are weak at times. We hurt the ones we love. (sometimes unknowingly)
There’s nothing that hurts more than that feeling of self-doubt when our partner starts to show signs of un-trust. The emotions that follow starts with constantly having to reassure him/her that you are faithful. Constantly worrying if he/she believes you. Not knowing if your spouse is even happy. How can you be truly happy if you constantly doubt your better half?
Marriage is not only a sacred bond but a life long friendship meant to grow and flourish. We are meant to support, compliment and care for each other.
The moment the cancerous emotion (jealousy) enters that bond there is a crack.
This spreads like cancer and grows.
And slowly kills what is beautiful and sacred.
Proverbs 6: 34
For jealousy is a husbands fury; therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance.
Wrath is cruel and anger a torrent,
But who is able to stand before jealousy?
The spouse is left feeling hopeless, despondent and crippled.
Many may argue and say a little jealousy is good for a relationship.
But to its extend….
When meant to protect..
But jealousy in a darker form takes hold of all emotions, thoughts and starts to control you.
Your loving, happy emotions are replaced with constant doubt, suspicion, undeserved anger and resentment towards your somewhat innocent “best friend”.
Pride takes over and you find yourself constantly fighting and accusing each other.
Idolatry,sorcery,hatred,contentions,jealousy,outburst of wrath,selfish ambitions, dissensions,heresies.
But if you have bitter envy and self seeking in your hearts, do not boast and lie against the truth.
This wisdom doesn’t descend from above, but is earthly, sensual, demonic.
This forms a pattern and with time it becomes a habit. One spouse always explaining, nervous, anxious, hurt….
The other always thinking negative for example..” he/she is alone all day. How do I know what he/she is up to?”
“he/she isn’t being truthful, I know he/she is lying”
constantly, secretly checking his/her phone. Throwing hints “I saw the way he looked at you”. “why did it take you so long to answer the phone?”
Need I say more?
With time attempting to reconnect takes effort because of the state your heart is in.
The bible clearly says what love should be!!! 1 corinthians 13;4-8
Love suffers long and is kind,love does not envy,love does not parade itself, is not puffed up,
Does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil, does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the TRUTH, bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things, love never fails.
Husbands love your wives just as Christ also loved the church and He is the savior of the body.
Wives submit to your own husbands as to the Lord.
If both partners are looking for ways to make the others life the best it can be,
They will not allow thoughts of adultry, jealousy to even enter their lives.
1 peter 3;7
Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.
And be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.
Forgiveness is the key.
Love is the glue.
God is the healer.
We should never let any disease like emotion grab hold of anything God has put together.
We need to love each other.
Cherish one another.
Understand and listen.
Jealousy is not from God.
Its a cancer that eats away.
But unlike cancer……
It can be cured……
With unconditional love!!